It’s been about 5 years since I first entered what is now my home church, on a cold December Saturday evening. I’d been exploring my faith again after many, many years of being away from the Christian church. But still always searching with the restlessness of one knowing there is a pursuant that he/she senses, yet turns to things of this world to satisfy.
For some that have shared their stories with me, it has been addictions in forms such as alcohol, legal and illegal drugs, and food to satisfy.
For me those things, those worldly ways to fill my always unsatisfied ego included the attention of men, the temporary satisfaction of being desired.
I was the perfect example of the ol’ saying: Looking for love in all the wrong places.
I look back to a moment, divorced 12 years , driving on a rural highway. Broken, tears flowing from another bad decision, another chosen path of satisfying in the wrong place, when I hear Him.
“Just let Me love you, Lynn. Just let ME love you.”
I remember pulling over to the shoulder, my tears too many to continue along my route, and the path my broken self had chosen to endure.
I was 45 years old when I entered that church that cold December Saturday evening. Once seated, looking around me I saw so many couples. So many happy couples. Do I belong here? A divorcee of many years and a failure? Taking a breath in, I opened my bible that I had planted on my trembling knees.
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has gone, the new has come.” 2 Cor. 5:17
I let myself take in His word, who He says I am.
Later, at the welcome booth in the foyer, I purchased one ticket for the Women’s Christmas dinner that had been announced during the service. The woman who sold me the ticket graciously offered an invitation to sit with her and her friends at the event. I accepted, however understood that not always what is offered is given. Yet, just days before the event, she called me to confirm that I would be sitting at her table.
That invitation led to a friendship with a woman who became a mentor to me, as well as a landing place as her and her husband expected me to sit with them each Sunday service.
Not only was God pursuing, beginning a healing in me, but He was also softening my heart through His love shown by married couples that embraced me in the church.
That one step from me, pushing myself out of my comfort zone to buy a ticket to a church event where I anticipated I would know no one, to a mentoring friendship with a married couple, began a building of confidence within me. Since then I have attended and led bible studies, created an annual fall prayer walk, been a volunteer at several different church events, and received my certification to be a Christian Life Coach.
It started with a step out of my comfort zone.
And continued with an invitation from a married woman.
This healing journey.
It hasn’t always been easy. Schemes of the enemy have tried to pull me back to my old ways. But there has been MORE of His healing, grace, and mercy.
And most importantly, love.
His love shining through the acceptance from my church community full of couples, no matter my status as a divorced single.
What then, brothers? When you come together, each one has a hymn,a lesson, a revelation, a tongue, or an interpretation. Let all things be done for building up. 1 Corinthians 14:26 ESV
If your single and looking to connect to your church community, how about taking a small step out of your comfort zone and join a study, attend a church event, or maybe even introduce yourself to a pastor? You have so much to offer….
If you are a married couple and would like to friend a single in your church, how about inviting him/her out for coffee, or for lunch after a church service one Sunday? A new friend in Christ is such a blessing….
“Here’s another way to put it: You’re here to be light, bringing out the God-colors in the world. God is not a secret to be kept. We’re going public with this, as public as a city on a hill. If I make you light-bearers, you don’t think I’m going to hide you under a bucket, do you? I’m putting you on a light stand. Now that I’ve put you there on a hilltop, on a light stand—shine! Keep open house; be generous with your lives. By opening up to others, you’ll prompt people to open up with God, this generous Father in heaven.” Matthew 5:14-16 The Message
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