Love is not always agreement with someone, but it is always sacrifice for someone. Ann Voskamp, The Way of Abundance
Slipping on my headphones I stepped out into the sunshine of the spring day, leaving the paperwork behind for about an hour or so I presumed. I pressed the shuffle command, which I’d done many times before when taking these neighbourhood walks. But this was the first time (honestly don’t remember this song ever being part of my playlist) that Joshua Kadison’s voice graced my ears.
“You’re beautiful in my eyes…”
Memories, pictures of another time flowed through my mind. A time of a romance decades ago now, that was full of all those romantic things–flowers, poetry, songs, and stolen moments with Kadison’s voice in the background, amplifying the feelings.
The relationship wasn’t right for many reasons. Ended with a sadness. A sadness though, that was wrapped in peace. A peaceful knowing it was the right thing to do.
As I walk in singleness, these moments of jolted memories can tug my heart and I’ll wonder if my heart can even produce a sliver of romance anymore, it’s been so long. In The Way of Abundance-A 60 Day Journey Into A Deeply Meaningful Life, Ann Voskamp questions what her husband is doing up on that ladder fixing the eaves and he responds “Loving you.”
Loving in an everyday romantic way.
I’ll see this in my friend’s relationships. This loving in the everyday romantic way. It’s shown in buying the right type of coffee, or carrying the passports while traveling, or typing the address into the GPS before their wives head out the door, alone. It’s in early morning devotions together (even though he’s not a morning person), in putting her dishes away in the dishwasher without grumbling, or placing her keys on the new key rack he just mounted (as he is hoping to eliminate helping her find her misplaced keys).
And I’m sure you can think of many more everyday romantic ways that say “Loving you.”
I do rejoice in seeing and hearing about these ‘Loving you,” gestures among my married and dating friends. Yet, sometimes there can be a tug of green envy at my heart, maybe even a little hardening too, to deflect the possible arrow of those unworthiness lies.
But I don’t want to grow a hard heart.
For from a hard heart, not only can one not receive, one cannot give either.
A generous person will prosper;
whoever refreshes others will be refreshed. Proverbs 11:12
A friend reminded me the other day of the heart of Jesus. This man who was never married.
This man who’s every moment in his ministry said, “Loving you.”
“He got up and rebuked the wind and the raging waters; the storm resided and all was calm.” Loving you. (Luke 8:24)
“Daughter your faith has healed you.” Loving you. Luke 8:48
“Women you are set free from your infirmity.” Loving you. Luke 13:12
Jesus answered, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” Loving you. John 4:13
Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?” “No, Lord,” she said. And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.” Loving you. John 8:10-11
And the ultimate sacrifice. A life given. Loving you.
This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. Loving you. 1 John 3:167
Everyday, know my friend, no matter your marital status, no matter the disappointments and struggles in your relationships, there is His Love Song that amplifies the message of Loving You more than any other can.
And you’re always beautiful through His eyes.
You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you. Song of Songs 4:7
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