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How Loving Yourself is Important for An Authentic Life

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When we love ourselves well, we can love others well. More importantly, as Christians, loving ourselves well is honouring God, the One who created our “inmost being” and whose “works are wonderful.” 

In the bible, we read: “For you created my inmost being, you knit me together in my mother’s womb.” Psalm 139:15 

The word “inmost” origin is from the Hebrew word “kidney.” In ancient times our kidneys were considered as the inner self where our desire and longings were positioned, and accounts for why the kidney represented our heart. 

The mighty hand of God created our “inmost being” — our desires and longings in our hearts. When we cover-up our desires and longings with negative feelings such as self-hatred, self-doubt, and self-loathing, we are no longer living our authentic life – the life our heavenly Father planned because of his great love for us from the beginning of time. 

Further in Psalms we read: “Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.” Psalm 139:16

Take a moment to read and reflect on the above scripture again. The good works that God planned for you in His proper time were created before you took your first breath!

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When we fill ourselves with God’s steadfast love, we learn to love ourselves just as He made us. Loving ourselves well also leads to taking care of our minds and our bodies as God calls us to do.

In Philippians Paul directs us to:

 “Do not be anxious about anything but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God which transcends all understanding will guard your heart and your mind in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:4-7

Also, from Paul, we read in Romans: 

“Therefore, I urge you brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God — this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve God’s will — his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:1-4

God’s Character Is In Every One of Us

The more we receive and know God’s love for us, the more we live out our authentic, true self. The more we understand how to love ourselves as God call us to, the more we will reflect His characteristics serving others through the longings and desires He placed in our hearts. 

Genesis 1:27: 

“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.”

He is our supreme Creator. We will never be totally like God, however we reflect the kingdom of God by the way we love ourselves and others. When we put ourselves down, we are criticizing what God has made! When we show our self-worth through our pursuits of our godly longings and desires, along with our obedience and devotion, we honour what God has made (us) and bring more beauty of the Lord into the world. 

When you see yourself as made in the likeness of God, you love yourself as God loves you, and feel worthy of His calling. 

Below is a list of characteristics of God. 

  • What one characteristic are you drawn to? 
  • What else does the bible say about that characteristic of God? 
  • What is God saying to you through that characteristic? 

Loving ourselves as God loves us shows our faithfulness to His ways, deepens our relationship with Him, and grows us closer in understanding the will of God in our lives. 

God also made you in His image for a specific purpose that only you can fulfill. His creative work is within you. When you honour yourself, treat yourself with respect, and live authentically, you are servant of Christ, honouring the Master behind the masterpiece He created — you. 

So, let’s live out the good news of the love of the Father! 

Let’s love ourselves well, so we can live authentically as God’s chosen daughters. Then, in-turn, others will be blessed by our loving presence that radiates the grace of our God as we fulfill the desires He placed in our hearts. 

When we read the bible, God’s word works within us, transforming our hearts and minds. We experience the real, living power of God when we seek to know Him better. And that includes God’s love for us. 

Paul encouraged the Thessalonians when they learned about God with the following words:

“And we also thank God continually because when you received the word of God which you heard from us, you accepted it not as a human word, but as it actually is, the word of God, which is indeed at work in you who believe.” Thessalonians 1:13

When we read our bibles, the power of God’s words continues to work within us.

Listening to your life can help you know your “inmost being.” Life is full of distractions, and noisy distractions can pull us in a direction away from God’s plan. 

Taking time to listen to ourselves by reflecting on how we are feeling and asking ourselves what really matters to us turns us toward our authentic selves. 

Daily taking time to ask ourselves the following can help realign ourselves to our values and passions.

  1. How am I feeling?
  2. What went well today?
  3. What didn’t go well?
  4. How can I do better tomorrow?
  5. What do I need?
  6. What was my joyful moment today? 
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Self care requires us to rest. When our minds and bodies are rested, we are blessed with a quiet spirit from within that refreshes our souls. 

In Matthew we read how Jesus promises that when we rest in Him, we experience refreshment and renewal. 

Come to Me, all who are weary and heavily burdened [by religious rituals that provide no peace], and I will give you rest [refreshing your souls with salvation]. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me [following Me as My disciple], for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU WILL FIND REST (renewal, blessed quiet) FOR YOUR SOULS. For My yoke is easy [to bear] and My burden is light.” Matthew 11: 28-30 AMP

Final thoughts:

God knitted you in the womb and loved you before you took your first breath. Nothing you do, or say, or forget will take away God’s love for you. 

Our inner beauty that is made in the image of God is unfading beauty. Nothing can fade God’s love for you. 

Rest assured that you are God’s handiwork. You are worthy of loving yourself well. 

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6 Comments

  1. I see you have a fresh look here, Lynn. Very inviting. As are your words. I love that at the bottom I can view your pics and videos even though I’m not on Instagram. I even saw some pics of your wedding and your new hubby! 🙂 Thank you for all these encouraging Bible verses and photography that also refresh my soul. Love and blessings to you!

    1. Hi Trudy! Yes, I decided to freshen up the place and add more of a nature feel that represents me. 🙂 I was told by blogging experts to remove the Instagram feed, but I haven’t. And now definitely won’t since you had a chance to view the nature photos, with a bit of my life sprinkled in! I’m glad they blessed you. Happy New Year! Hugs!

  2. Beautiful thoughts about loving ourselves authentically. I like the questions in the “Listen to Your Life” section. Reflecting on what went well, what was difficult, or what I need is important to the growth process. Thank you for your words.

  3. Dear Lynn, your compelling art, wise questions, and Scripture verses guide us onward and upward. And yes, how can we love others well if we think of ourselves with a critical eye, as less than, as never enough. In Christ, we have everything we need for life and godliness. Thanks for pointing us toward Him, yet again.